The Expectation To Have A Second Child

When I had Darcy it never even occurred to me or even a thought in my mind when I'd be having the next child. I just wanted to soak up being her mum and thought of nothing else. As the months grew on more and more people were saying to me 'when's the next one?' I still had never even thought of it. Even now, I'm not thinking of having another baby. I'm sure a time will come in the future where perhaps I'll want another one but right now one is just enough. There are many factors that come in to place when deciding to have another baby but I don't think you can let things stand in the way when you do want to have a baby.

1.Financially.. having another baby can be quite a big cost. For example currently we live in a two bedroom house and I know kids can share rooms but I'm a bit of a control freak and I think I'd like them to have there separate places which would mean we would need to find a three bedroomed house. Thats just my personal opinion. Another thing is once I go back to work I'd have to put them both in childcare and that's another biggggg cost as well as new gear. Luckily, I've saved a lot of Darcy's newborn bits for when that time comes.

2. This is a bit selfish but I do need to consider myself in all of this. I am 22 years old and still not too sure what I want to do with my life (career wise). I feel like perhaps at some point I'd quite like to go back to education but to do what, I still don't know, having another child now would push that back a bit. I have a few anxiety and confidence issues also and something that would need to be managed. Having another baby probably wouldn't make that any better.

3. Current family dynamic is another one, a lot of people say you need to have another to keep the first child company but I really don't believe this is the case. Yes, it is nice however Darcy is such a sociable little girl (nothing like me, so i don't think she is lonely by any means.)

It is just generally expected that once you've had one, when will be the next one.. but what if you only wanted one? It's just not very common. 

Thanks for reading

Amelia

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Why You're A Better Mummy/Daddy Than You Realise

Being a mum is quite possibly the hardest job in the world, there is so much to learn in regards to getting a balance, setting up boundaries and just generally devoting all your time and being responsible for somebody else. However, being a mum is honestly the best job in the world and I feel so grateful everyday that I am one. 

Some days I feel like I am superwoman and just getting it so right, but other days and more frequently I feel like such a fail and as though I am the worst mum in the world.

This is either because I didn't give enough discipline or I haven't been around and playing as much.. I think this is such a shame that I feel like this because we all must feel like that sometimes, right?

Of course we all doing a much better job than we ever realise simply because we care, we care that we might not be doing a good enough job and we want to strive to be better parent everyday and that in itself is amazing.

We show them love everyday, and when they're upset we let there emotions be heard, we sit there and we listen and teach them that it is okay not to be okay sometimes.

We are the first teachers to them, they watch our every move.. they see us use manners. They see us say sorry when we need to and we just talk to them which teaches them how to speak, they go on to copy us and grow.

We are strong to them, they see us as superheros that can do anything, and thats what I'd like Darcy to think.. that she CAN do anything.

Say goodbye to the guilt, easier said than done, I know. We need to give ourselves a bit of love in order to stay happy, treat yourself and take a break for you.. besides a happy parent means a happy child as they say.

These are just a few simple reasons as to why you're all doing just a fab job and there are hundreds more personal reasons I am sure. We really need to tell ourselves more often just how amazing we actually are.

Thanks for reading 

Amelia

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The Simple Moments #1

On Sunday we decided that we really needed a family day out, we hadn't spent time together as a family in a little while and it was much required. Whilst deciding upon what to do I remembered that I had seen someone I am following on Instagram went to Devon Railway Centre and Model World. It looked like such a fun day out and looked like there was quite a lot to do for kiddies which is obviously very important!

It was so easy to find and only took about 45 minutes to get there. It isn't the biggest place but with kids under 5 you could spend quite a decent amount of time there and the price is pretty reasonable to get in, you can have unlimited journeys on the steam train around the park which Darcy thought in her own words was amazing. There is a little museum with plenty of interactive buttons to press for the little ones to move the trains ect. There is even a soft play area which is every child's dream really isn't it?! There is plenty of outdoor playgrounds too, It has literally been done for rain and shine. As well as this there is a ride your own train' and another model village which were really impressively built. It was such a simple but lovely day and just what we all needed. 

After all the fun that we had here we decided to go and get a bite to eat at a lovely country pub, me and Paul had a scrummy roast and Darcy had Sausage, chips and peas, not forgetting my Yorkshire pudding that she ate! It was such a lovely day and I am looking forward to another lovely day like this, the weather held out for us too which made it even better.

Amelia

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Current Wishlist: Toddler Wardrobe Edition

Recently I have been on a bit of a spending ban with myself in regards to Darcys wardrobe, I got to the point where I realised right Darcy has more than enough clothes, we need to save for the holiday so something had to take a backseat. It hasn't stopped me from looking though has it, ha.

So there is seven bits in total that I am currently loving and resisting temptation from placing an order from, all from either Zara, Gap or Next. You just can't go wrong with their clothes can you.

Top Left: This cute top from Zara with the slogan 'Girl's Power' I love it, super cute colour too.

They have three different slogans to choose from.

This Gorgeous mustard dress is from Next and would just be perfect for the Autumn, it has a lovely floral print and a Peter Pan colar

A ballerina top is always a winner for me, thats just the girlie side of me coming out, what a lovely print and I do love the sleeves too. This t-shirt is from Gap.

These jeans from Zara just for me have Autumn all over it. I love khaki colours and I cannot wait to get her in to more of these. I love that they have slogans ect on them too.

Ah, I love dressing Darcy in onesies, just because it reminds me of her being a baby. So so cute and I really love the print too. I need these, they're from Next

This grey playsuit and blouse set is just a dream, I can see Darcys chubby little legs in these. They're from Next and bit on the pricey side for £19 but I think she'd get so much wear out of this. Again, I love the collar, can you tell I like Peter Pan collars?

Last, but definitely not least.. infact I think theses are my favourite thing out of the whole wishlist..these beautiful shoes from Zara! Ah they're sooooo cute. I'm definitely buying these

Thanks for reading,

Amelia

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Why I Decided To Give My Blog A Makeover

So If you come here often, you might notice that I haven't been consistantly here for a while. There's been a few reasons for that though to be honest, but one of them is simply the fact that I fell out of love with my blog, didn't really know what direction it was really going in and I knew that I needed to change something. I wrote a post a couple of weeks ago about how I keep myself motivated and then straight after I lost alllllll motivation within my blog which is a bit ironic really isn't it? Ha. 

One of the first things I thought I ought to do is take a break from blogging, but secondly I decided last week to give my blog a new makeover and just generally completely rebrand as a result you'll notice I have a new name and I have chucked away the 'mumsbeautycave' as I don't think it really suited my blog and sounded really childish.

The name of my blog now is simply my name -  Amelia Salmon along with www.anothermummyblog.com I've changed all my social media to the same.  I'm really pleased with it and I feel like it's given me a new cease of life for my blog and I'm sooo excited for the future :)))))))

I hope you like the new blog layout, please let me know! 

Amelia

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A Guide To Twitter Chats For Bloggers

One of the best ways that I have learnt of growing my blog is to actually just interact with people and use social media to its very advantage. I also just really enjoy interacting with people that have the same interest and do the same thing as me anyway.

I thought I'd make my very own Twitter Chat Guide to show you when some of the chats that I have used are on. I know there are already a few of these floating around but I found other chats that other people didn't have on there guides and also I just don't think they are too easy to find.

These are all UK BST Times and are either general chats, lifestyle, beauty & parenting based..

MONDAY: 

#beechat 5pm-6pm @cbeechat

#TheGirlGang 6pm-7pm @TheGirlGangHQ

#BDIB (Bloggers Do It Better) 7pm-8pm @BDIBCHAT 


TUESDAY:

#fblchat (Fashion, Beauty & Lifestyle Bloggers) 8pm -9pm @fashbeautylife

#bloghour 9pm-10pm @UKBlogAwards

#GRLPWR 9pm-10pm @GRLPWRCHAT


WEDNESDAY:

#lbloggers (Lifestyle Bloggers) 7pm - 8pm @lbloggerschat

#teacupclub 7pm-8pm @teacupclub_

#bbloggers (Beauty Bloggers) 8pm - 9pm @bbloggerschat


THURSDAY:

#fdbloggers (Food Bloggers) 8pm-9pm @fdbloggers

#GRLPWR 8pm-9pm @GRLPWRCHAT

#beechat 9pm-10pm @cbeechat


FRIDAY:

#bdib (Bloggers Do It Better) 8pm-9pm @bdibchat


SUNDAY:

#teacupclub 5pm-6pm @TeacupClub_

#lbloggers  (Lifestyle Bloggers) 7pm-8pm @lbloggerschat

#bbloggers (Beauty Bloggers) 8pm-9pm @bbloggerschat 

#blogospherechat 8pm-9pm @BlogosphereM

#mblogchat (Mummy Bloggers) 8pm-9pm @mummy_bloggers

#pbloggers (Parenting Bloggers) 9pm-10pm @pbloggersnet

#GRLPWR 9pm-10pm @GRLPWRCHAT

So there is quite a few to choose from and I just think that they're so helpful and such a great way to make some friends.

Is there any more chats that you would reccomend?

Thanks for reading 

Amelia

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