When I had Darcy it never even occurred to me or even a thought in my mind when I'd be having the next child. I just wanted to soak up being her mum and thought of nothing else. As the months grew on more and more people were saying to me 'when's the next one?' I still had never even thought of it. Even now, I'm not thinking of having another baby. I'm sure a time will come in the future where perhaps I'll want another one but right now one is just enough. There are many factors that come in to place when deciding to have another baby but I don't think you can let things stand in the way when you do want to have a baby.
1.Financially.. having another baby can be quite a big cost. For example currently we live in a two bedroom house and I know kids can share rooms but I'm a bit of a control freak and I think I'd like them to have there separate places which would mean we would need to find a three bedroomed house. Thats just my personal opinion. Another thing is once I go back to work I'd have to put them both in childcare and that's another biggggg cost as well as new gear. Luckily, I've saved a lot of Darcy's newborn bits for when that time comes.
2. This is a bit selfish but I do need to consider myself in all of this. I am 22 years old and still not too sure what I want to do with my life (career wise). I feel like perhaps at some point I'd quite like to go back to education but to do what, I still don't know, having another child now would push that back a bit. I have a few anxiety and confidence issues also and something that would need to be managed. Having another baby probably wouldn't make that any better.
3. Current family dynamic is another one, a lot of people say you need to have another to keep the first child company but I really don't believe this is the case. Yes, it is nice however Darcy is such a sociable little girl (nothing like me, so i don't think she is lonely by any means.)
It is just generally expected that once you've had one, when will be the next one.. but what if you only wanted one? It's just not very common.
Thanks for reading
Amelia
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