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Wednesday, 23 September 2015

Darcy | 3 Month Update

The months keep passing and my baby girl keeps getting bigger *sad face*.
This month has been one with the biggest milestones and probably the best one yet. I've really enjoyed watching her grow and everyday she seems to learn some thing new, I also love watching her play with her toys. She's a smiley little girl and has been since she knew how to smile. I think I even heard a giggle the other day!
Here are the details..
  • She's a lot more interactive with her toys, she grips hold of her rattle and sometimes tries to eat it. One of her toys is a small cuddly ball that makes noise when you move it and I think she's learnt that that's how it works and its just lovely to watch.
  • She now weighs 12lb 6oz and is on gaining weight on track.
  • She's in size 3 nappies and in size 3-6 month clothing however some things are slightly baggy.
  • She's sleeping like a dream! I bath her at around 8pm and give her a bottle straight after and she will sleep through until 6-7am which is absolutely beautiful. (She sometimes goes back to sleep for a couple of hours so I get a lie-in, yay)
  • She's quite drooly and I'm pretty sure she's early teething, I really hate seeing her in pain but I need to get used to it because these teethy pains are gonna be around for a little bit longer.
  • She likes watching the telly,  I don't want her to get in the habit of being a square eyes, so try not to have it on too often.
  • Her naps are generally about 11am, 2pm & 5pm and then she's good until bedtime. They last around 45 minutes.
Despite some of these changes, this month has been some what more challenging as Darcy has required a lot more attention, I mean she did anyway but she likes me to play with her and doesn't really enjoy entertaining herself, which is difficult when I need 15 minutes to whizz around and tidy up. She also seems to be going through a phase where she doesn't want to be away from me, in the evenings when I am in the kitchen tidying up and her Daddy is watching her she cries for me which a part of me absolutely melts but its proven to be quite challenging. I wouldn't change any of this for the world because at the end of the day this is the beautiful little girl she is growing to be. I must admit I don't think I'm lacking in the sleep department because like I said earlier she's sleeping great and I don't function well on zero sleep, happy mummy - happy baby & all that.
Did any of your babies start teething early? What worked best for getting through it?
As always, thank you for reading.

Wednesday, 16 September 2015

What They Don't Tell You About Postpartum

Beware... I'm going to be honest, if you just want to experience this in your own way then don't read on. These are just a few points I wish I had known and what I'd learnt through my experience.

In the months leading up to giving birth I did a lot of research on the whole giving birth thing, I just wanted to know what to expect without completely scaring myself, however what I seemed to bypass or forget to do was research a little in the part after, even though I didn't do a lot of digging around I didn't find much when I typed in 'what to expect when giving birth?' So here is a few things I wish I knew:

Pooing is going to be painful. 

TMI, well all of these are going to a bit TMI. Your first few bowel movements are going to be painful, I was absolutely petrified the first time and my tip would be to try not to worry about it. My midwife told me if I hadn't passed a bowel movement within the first week I'd need to take laxatives and this straight away concerned me. Luckily it was okay in the end but just try not to get too worked up about it as it's only going to make it worse. It will be painful but you have this beautiful bundle of joy so it's all worth it.

You'll need a lot of underwear (that you don't mind getting ruined)

This is one that I actually did prepare for but didn't realise quite how important it actually is. There will be A LOT of blood just bare that in mind. Pick up some primarni comfy seamless pants.

For the first couple of days after giving birth you'll probably walk like you've pooed yourself

A watermelon has just been pushed through your vagina (okay, a baby, but same size.) of course you're going to walk a little funny. If like me you had an episiotomy it could be worse and you'll end up walking like an elephant.

Start stocking up on maternity towels

You're going to need these for the first few weeks after giving birth, and perhaps for your first period too. You haven't had a period in 9 months. I never realised how much blood was in my body! ha.

You'll probably cry a lot

If like me you're an emotional wreck at the best of time, this will be a whole other story. It only took three days for the flood gates to open, I was crying at nothing and realising I had this amazing beautiful girl and then I'd cry about crying.. I didn't know this but a lot of hormones are in your placenta and releasing these are going to give you the dreaded 'baby blues'.

Breastfeeding is the hardest thing ever

For me breastfeeding was something I wasn't expecting to be as difficult as it was, I was told it was natural so why wasn't it easy? I didn't even realise your milk doesn't come in until day 3, and by day 3 Darcy was so hungry she became dehydrated and back to hospital we had to go. I persevered for three weeks and after crying in pain every time she wanted feeding I unfortunately gave up, I began having feelings of not bonding with Darcy and if I had carried on I think I would been going down the road of post-natal depression. 

Everything aches like you've run a marathon

I remember the first few days feeling not just like I'd had a session down the gym but like I'd done about three marathons and been on boot camp for a month, I was ACHING ALL OVER. no more words needed.

As a couple it is the most stressful change

I dont think Paul and I knew what we were in for, we don't function well with sleep deprivation so looking after a baby was very hard for us, along with the breastfeeding drama. We have definitely gotten used to it now and the change in us is amazing. We try to make sure we still make time for each other and I think this is very important for any couple to do.

Don't look at your crotch

I didn't personally do this one because I was far too frightened but I'd advise any other fellow vaginal deliverers to not look at your crotch it won't look the same...

Your hair might break

This was another one I wasn't expecting, all along the front of my hairline my hair broke off and I have little baby hairs there now,  I know it is worse for a lot of people so I'd consider myself quite lucky. 

Your breasts will be heavy

If your breastfeeding you'll know that as soon as your milk comes in your boobs will feel heavy and hard, and then when you stop breastfeeding it's even worse and they become engorged and then you have leaky bosoms. 

They stitch you up right away

So you've had the baby and you think it's over.. it's not. Your then stitched up if you needed to which I thought was worse than giving birth in my opinion. I know others thought differently.

They'll make you get in the shower straight after giving birth

Not even two hours after I'm told to go and have a shower or bath I chose shower although at the time I wanted to do neither, all I wanted to do was lie there in all my achiness & not have to get up and walk around, I just had a baby!

On a beauty side of things, your skin might change

Last but definitely not least, I thought we would end this on a beauty note, for me my skin changed and went quite dry this is the least of my problems and I just adapted my skincare routine for it. When I could initiate a routine around a baby.

These have all sounded pretty negative but there was one big positive that pushes all of these negatives out of the way, you have the most amazing beautiful little creation and bundle of joy in your life now and these points don't matter one bit.


Wednesday, 2 September 2015

5 Things I've Learnt Since Moving Out.

This year has been a fairly crazy one for me, not only have I had a baby but in March this year I also moved out of my parents for the first time. I was extremely nervous about this and it took a lot of getting used to along with a huge amount of anxiety. Something I hadn't experienced much of until then.
However putting that aside there were a few things I definately learnt along the way.

1. You'll have to go to the Supermarket. This being the most important and obvious one, food doesn't actually buy itself and you have to actually go out and buy these things? Food doesn't just appear in your fridge? Who'd of known! And no you can't buy a load of junk, unless you want to get fat. You need to learn to cook. Oh and also don't forget things like toilet roll. Someone actually bought that, borrrrinng!

2. Money doesn't actually go very far. There are a lot of bills that come with moving out. Electricity, Water, Gas, Council Tax & like above food shopping! As soon as your bills are paid, you'll wonder where it's all gone.

3. Cats are bloody annoying for someone who doesn't have any. I know this is a bit of a random one. Let me just clear this one up, I love cats and always have done, but my neighbour has 6!! I've seen everyone of them use my garden as a litter tray and it winds me up.. why should I clear up after some one elses pet. Oh and the other day one of them came in my house and took a walk around my front room. It made me so mad as I have such a young baby. How am I to know it doesn't carry any diseases!

4. You have to clear up after yourself. There is a lot of cleaning to be done if you don't want to live in a pit, hoovering, dusting (important one with a baba) washing up, washing itself. Cleaning the toilet!

5. Washing sucks. This one sort of carries on from the above but washing really is the worse job of them all especially with a baby. Oh and when the weather is poor you'll have to hang things on driers if you don't have a tumble dryer like us. If you don't have the heating on it will probably take like a week to dry too. Don't even get me started on the ironing.

Anything you learnt after moving out? I've missed a lot here and I could go on forever. It's been a learning curve for somebody like me.

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